In the process of growing up and “maturing”, I sometimes wonder if I’m going in the right direction. No relative rights; what is my Right? What are the fundamental values that I’ve grown up with that can be affiliated with my Right? I don’t want to live with anyone else’s Right, I want to grow enough to be able to define it vaguely and live by it.
It’s strange how we all grow up similarly (similarly, not the same), yet we never hesitate to judge others for the lessons they’re learning. I’m sure you’ve used the word “teenybopper” to describe someone younger than you because of the things that interest them and the issues that they find important (mall, boys, friends) or the word “fake” for others whom seem to have half-personalities. I won’t lie; I’ve used the word millions of times to describe the plethoras of people and personalities that I’ve come across.
I just realized that it doesn’t make us a better person by judging others on the lessons they’ve yet to learn, assuming that we’ve learned enough to have the need to do so. May it be vague personalities and/or mistakes, I believe that we should help each other laugh off our mistakes and grow. We’re all growing, learning about the intricacies of our minds and figuring our thoughts! We’re plants of blooming morals, values, and ideologies! (Alright, extended metaphor gone too far.) It doesn’t hurt to have a helping hand.
“One of the greatest feelings in life is the conviction that you have lived the life you wanted to live — the rough and the smooth, the good and the bad — but yours, shaped by your own choices, and not someone else’s.”
I love my life with each mental breakdown, happiness, insanity, friend, acquaintence, lesson. If anything, the people that I’ve grown to love have taught me to enjoy and embrace the simple beauty in what others find absolutely ridiculous. I will not let anyone “[nip] me in the [buds that I fancy to] let blossom”.
Stella i think this is very insightful observation. i think you said it though. when we are young and still learning it is the exploration stage. it is full of excitement, intrigue, challenges, and hope, but once we are grown up and look back we forget that initial feeling and we do tend to label others but i think it is because we know that for the majority of the people their age they act in that same general sense
for me though growing up i think is a big adventure to learn and relearn old lessons. i think that part of the fun of growing up is the experience and if we ever think we are growned up fully then we lost the sight of the adventures of life.
i think that growing up is natural, but sometimes in life we get too excited for something we see glamorous or something we think is where we want to be in life. the problem with that is when we try and act it out, there isn’t any history or experiences to go with it and so we can’t capture the full experience. I hope you continue to build on these experiences every day and keep on looking for opportunities to grow but also live life with what you want not what you think the world wants you to live.
everything is like a building, it needs the basic foundation to withstand the environment. we can all pretend to grow up or play the role but when it comes down to it without that foundation that the years of life provide, your life will be empty. you are a great girl, i really like the way you think and the way you explore life’s question, bottom line though,
don’t forget to just “LIVE” sometimes without analization.
stella you practically stole the world’s wisdom in one person’s life and turned it around to make it more meaningful. I almost forgot about that lesson or rather moved on after it. but then again, reading it made me get insight thank you stella… =]